Okay, so here is the second post of two (see the first one here) in which I have "talked LOVE" with two lovely lady-bloggers who've been lucky enough to find the man they're meant to be with, and who've been kind enough to humor me and answer some questions about it.
Today's lovely lady-blogger: M from the blog soul wanderings. Her blog was one of the first I've ever read - about three years ago - and her words and thoughts and well, soul wanderings have kept me coming back.
Along with her musings, her obvious love for her hubster-roo fills my heart with hope and wonder. Here're some questions I asked and some answers I got, from none other than lady M herself:
a*r: L-O-V-E. Love. ...and let's talk about the romantic kind. In ten words or less, what is 'love' to you?
M: Imagine you were a cat for a minute... Love is my warm rock in the sunshine.
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a*r: When/How did you know that 'the boy' was the man you wanted to spend the rest of your life with? Was it a feeling? Was it a moment? Did you know from the start, or did it happen gradually over time?
M: I knew the boy for a couple years before we got together, and we were best friends during that time, but the feeling of wanting him hit me quite suddenly, like a ton of bricks. Then, since I knew him so well, and the physical chemistry between us also seemed to be right, I was sure that I'd be spending the rest of my life with him within about two weeks of us getting together.
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a*r: Off the top of your head, what is the most memorable Valentine's Day or {day-of-love} you and the boy had together?
M: We don't do Valentine's day - whoops! But the most memorable day of celebrating our love for each other would have to be our wedding day - it was transcendental, feeling our love amplified a million-fold by the love of all those who were there to witness that day.
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a*r: What advice would you give readers who don't have a Valentine lined up and are still looking for that special someone?
M: I really think that the best thing for me relationship-wise was being single. The two years I spent being determinedly single as an adult allowed me to get to know myself, and to come to terms with realising that I could only be happy and fulfilled within myself - no one else could make me happy. I really think that time allowed me to mature into a person who eventually made a much better partner within a relationship than I had been previously. So, if you're single on Valentine's Day, I say just enjoy the day in the best way you can, and celebrate being the wholly wonderful person that you are, in and of yourself.
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a*r: What advice would you give readers who DO have a Valentine lined up -- and maybe have had that same Valentine for a number of years -- but still feel unsure about whether or not they want this Valentine to be their Valentine for life? Do you feel that there is room for doubt in a relationship?
M: This is a tough one... I think there's a lot of room for doubt within a relationship - life is full of uncertainty, and I think the more we embrace that the more relaxed we can be about how we live our lives - but I'm not sure about doubt for a relationship. Mind you, I don't think every relationship has to be about finding 'the one' and lead to 'forever after', but I do think you need to honestly look at what it is you're hoping to get from the relationship that you're in, and if it's really not providing what it is that you need, maybe thinking again.
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a*r: In the song Not Like the Movies, Katy Perry sings "If it's not like the movies, that's how it should be..."Would you say your relationship with the boy is 'like the movies'?
M: Definitely not. Real life is waaaaaaaaay better than any fictional simulation thereof.
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a*r: In the song Complicated Melody, India Arie sings about her guy in terms of other things like, "If he were a color, he'd be a deep, dark forest green...if he were a car, he'd be a long, stretch limousine with room for all of humanity inside..."(P.S. -- I love that song. Tee hee!) If the boy were a color, what color would he be and why?
M: If the boy were a colour he'd be sky blue, because that's my colour of contentment, and I'm pretty content with him.
a*r: I'm making a couple of cute little references to certain songs. If you were to choose one song that embodies your relationship, what song would that be?
M: I'm not a musical thinker, so I don't really have an answer to this question, and life is so complex, I'm pretty sure we'd need something more like a musician's entire canon of work.
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a*r: How do you picture your LOVE in 5 years? In 10 years? In 20 years? Is there any ounce of fear or anxiety associated?
M: Looking forward into relationship, I feel no fear or anxiety, which, to be honest, I take as a really positive sign! And all I can hope is that it will be just as it is today, but a million times more so.
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a*r: What's the best part of being with the boy?
M: To quote Jessica Rabbit, "He makes me laugh." ;)
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Thanks so much to M for taking the time out to contribute.
xOxO,
Here it is! Thanks for asking me to participate. <3
Posted by: one soul | Monday, February 13, 2012 at 03:24 PM