I have the homesickness. Cue tiny tear. I've been away from home for four weeks now, and like I hinted a week ago: I never thought I'd make it this long. It's felt different over the course of these past 28 days, but has caused me cognitive distress in some form or another nonetheless.
Here is a list of 5 things that have been helping me get through it:
Coming up with ideas and then using all my cognitive energy to make those ideas happen has been such a help in getting me through my homesickness. Not to mention, when the craft is complete and becomes an uplifting aspect of my surroundings - it helps create calm even after it's done.
I talked about my recent journey into meditation in this post, but since writing it, I've done more research and more practice, and it has been helping. It has allowed me to 'check in' with myself - not in a way that has me 'check in' with my feelings about this or that or what my mom said or what my schedule looks like tomorrow or how homesick I am on a scale of 1 to 10 - NO. None of that. Meditation has you 'check in' to yourself - your core self of calm and peace and security - and has shown me time and time again that I can access it by turning my consciousness inward to my breath.
Actually, to be more specific, this one has been reading about meditating. Or even more specific than that: reading about cognitive distress, fear, and unhapiness (even homesickness?) and how meditation can help you through it. So basically, I've been researching my butt off. I've been raging against the dying of the light by studying what makes the light go dim in the first place. This has helped me with the dark feeling that is homesickness, and provided me with actual strategies to apply to my situation.
(This is the book. I talked a little bit about it at the end of this post. Full book report coming soon.)
4. visualizing my relatives that have passed
This one might sound weird, but it has helped me. I've been in several rental cars over the past four weeks, and when I'm driving in an unfamilar place, I don't like the radio on. So there I was - alone in a silent car, driving on strange streets. At one point, I pictured my Nana next to me, in the passenger seat. She was smiling, giggling with me about this crazy ride I'm on (literally and figuratively). Then I visualized my Nonna, my Uncle Jimmy, and my Grandpa in the back seat, all squished like. They were with me. I knew them, and I was not alone.
5. shoving anxiety in a box
Here's another thing I've been doing that might sound weird, but it's been helping. I caught the video below several weeks ago and for some reason it registered with me, and I've been practicing this mental technique every since.
(I swear, people need to talk to me like ^that all the time.) By 'putting the anxiety in a box', I am able to deal with it in the moment and move on from it easier than I have in the past. Anxiety is an ogre, and I know for sure that my fear, worry, and homesickness would have already consumed me if I hadn't been practicing ways to tame it.
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I hope this little list has helped you if you are feel homesick. I'd love for you to share in the comments anything that's helped you. ♥ Thanks for stopping by.